I follow a blog called Fantabulosity by Jessica Burgess and the other day she had sent out an email basically asking if something happened all of sudden that changed your world, how would you feel? What would you miss? What would still be or would now become important to you? It was to help kind of refocus your thoughts and intentions around the holidays (and everyday) but especially around the holidays when it is so easy to get caught up in getting everything “perfect” for visiting family, planning the “perfect” party, making sure you get all the gifts for the kids, setting up the”perfect” tree and the list goes on. It’s true, there is a lot to think about and the intentions behind those things are all fine. Who doesn’t want to try and make everything wonderful for their loved ones but with that being said, it can get overwhelming and easy to lose sight of the things that really matter. The questions were meant not to guilt anyone but rather to help everyone shift their intentions and focus slightly less on the “perfectness” of it all and rather focus on what is really important to you.
This post really hit me, especially around this time of year because while I don’t tend to get too caught up in the “perfectness” of it all, this is the second Christmas without my poppa. I am really glad that I have all the memories of past Christmases with him but it’s still hard. It really made me think though and cherish the fact that I took the time when he was here to really enjoy the moments I had with him.
It also made me stop and think about all the times I do get caught up in something if it’s really important and if it is worth the stress it is causing me. I tend to be pretty laid back most of the time but I can let sometimes small everyday things get to me more than they should and keep me from focusing on more important things. I am working on that though. I am going to write a post closer to New Year’s about resolutions and intentions but that is going to be one of them. Making sure I am present in the moments because you just don’t ever know when it could be your last with someone. I do get the importance of taking pictures because those are a really good way to help hold on to the memories but I also like to be more present and have the memories in my head and know that I was fully there in the moment, listening to the conversations happening, watching facial expressions and experiencing everyone in the moment.
I used to spend every holiday and many other random times with my family and fully enjoyed all of it. I now live away from my family and while I still see them once in a while and sometimes for holidays, I appreciate the memories that I have now more than ever before.
Anyway, I hope this post finds you well and gently reminds you to treasure and acknowledge what you have now for everything can change in an instant and hold on to those memories.